There
is a theory that haunts our thoughts and hearts for years (or should I
say centuries?) fueled by fiction stories, that all we need is love. I have my doubts. No, I'm not talking about basic or material needs only about love.
If these months here in Germanic lands have taught me something, besides being silent, is that love alone is not enough.
I had the pleasure of receiving in my house these last few days, two very dear friends. Each of them is in a different time of life regarding relationships. One is dating, the other married last year. Living with them I realized that what they have with their respective partners is much more than love. One had support and help from the husband even before their dating time started, the other has a relationship of complicity with her boyfriend.
Years ago The Beatles were already saying "all you need is love", and many others before them have also done it. While I agree with much of the utopia of "Imagine" by John Lennon, I disagree with "All You Need is Love". I am one of the most romantic people I know. I love surprise notes, flowers, gifts without special dates, surprise breakfasts and all sorts of things imaginable. I love to receive these things, but mostly, I like to do them to someone else when I'm in love. But no, I do not agree that everything you need is love.
Love without support, without praise, without affection, without complicity, without friendship, without understanding, without comprehension, without listening to the other, simply does not support itself. For love may actually prevail, it must be accompanied by all these or it won't last. It may even exist, but can not grow and magnify as it should.
Is there anything better than someone who fights for you? Not in the sense of fighting to win you over, but to buy your struggles and help you move on. To give you a hand and help you walk when you are not managing to do it alone.
So please, sing the song, yes, but do more than that, when you love do it with an open heart, giving besides love, all these "small" details that make this feeling magnanimous. Without fear of losing, without fear of suffering, without fear of being honest, unafraid to be who you are, love without pride. Love with care, with friendship, with support, with praise, with understanding. Love with open arms both to the tears and to the smiles. Love with open ears to listen to the other person. Love showing that you are there for your loved one. Love, but always remember that love alone is not enough.
If these months here in Germanic lands have taught me something, besides being silent, is that love alone is not enough.
I had the pleasure of receiving in my house these last few days, two very dear friends. Each of them is in a different time of life regarding relationships. One is dating, the other married last year. Living with them I realized that what they have with their respective partners is much more than love. One had support and help from the husband even before their dating time started, the other has a relationship of complicity with her boyfriend.
Years ago The Beatles were already saying "all you need is love", and many others before them have also done it. While I agree with much of the utopia of "Imagine" by John Lennon, I disagree with "All You Need is Love". I am one of the most romantic people I know. I love surprise notes, flowers, gifts without special dates, surprise breakfasts and all sorts of things imaginable. I love to receive these things, but mostly, I like to do them to someone else when I'm in love. But no, I do not agree that everything you need is love.
Love without support, without praise, without affection, without complicity, without friendship, without understanding, without comprehension, without listening to the other, simply does not support itself. For love may actually prevail, it must be accompanied by all these or it won't last. It may even exist, but can not grow and magnify as it should.
Is there anything better than someone who fights for you? Not in the sense of fighting to win you over, but to buy your struggles and help you move on. To give you a hand and help you walk when you are not managing to do it alone.
So please, sing the song, yes, but do more than that, when you love do it with an open heart, giving besides love, all these "small" details that make this feeling magnanimous. Without fear of losing, without fear of suffering, without fear of being honest, unafraid to be who you are, love without pride. Love with care, with friendship, with support, with praise, with understanding. Love with open arms both to the tears and to the smiles. Love with open ears to listen to the other person. Love showing that you are there for your loved one. Love, but always remember that love alone is not enough.
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