Closure

Closure:
the state of experiencing an emotional conclusion to a difficult life event.

Have you ever heard of people that have unfinished emotions in relationships? Well, I have, many times. Not only have I heard, but experienced it.

Sometimes what we feel for someone is so strong, or deeply rooted inside that it's difficult to completely let go of it. If the experience lived was somehow hard and complicated, some people are able to move on right away, others will feel as if their hearts were closed. It can take time to heal. Hours become days, days become months, and maybe, months will turn into years.

We never really know what's going to make us have the feeling of closure because usually we don't even realize that we need it. Since we keep on going with life, working, having coffee with friends, running the everyday errands, most of the time we can't see that our hearts are still closed. The brain might say otherwise, but it doesn't control our hearts and if our hearts feel closed, they need their own time to re-open.

Time heals everything, that's true, but sometimes it takes too long. Little by little your heart starts to open again and light is finally allowed in. Other times, this process is already taking place but very slowly and then, suddenly, you feel lighter and happier. It could have been from a dream that gave you the sense of closure, it could be from writing down all your deepest feelings, it could be from a friendship born from the love that once existed between the two people involved.

The fact is that, when your heart finally gets the closure it was waiting for, you feel lighter, happier, and free. Life's colors become more vivid, daily tasks are easier, nature's splendor is restored to its full beauty, and you're finally able to get completely rid of the bad memories and keep only the good ones. Life is once again, complete.

Let's welcome this feeling, embrace it, and feel lighter knowing that happiness has, once again, opened its doors to us.

Image: Shawshank Redemption - Castle Rock Entertainment - 1994